Oppose your fear….. surf on it – don’t get swallowed up by it. To oppose your fear, you need to take opposite actions. Is fear holding you back? No one is fearless. We all have things we are fearful of to varying degrees. Do you live with your fear and let it make decisions for you? The answer to that, for most of us, is probably. Some of us, however, have found a different way to cope (or ride). How?
Surfing over fear. Instead of letting your fear become all-consuming, it’s possible to use fear as a ticket to experience more. To do more. To ride bigger waves. Enjoy bigger life highs. Riding on fear, we do more. We create more. We live more. We are more. When fear creeps in, identify it. Call it what it is. Become familiar with how you feel when you’re afraid. Does your pulse race? Do you sweat? Do you pace? Know yourself and your reactions to fear. You can’t drive a car if you don’t know where the gas pedal is – and you can’t cope with your fear if you don’t know how it works in you.
Ask: what am I afraid of? Identify your small fears. List them out. Start small. Get as many down as possible. Next, list your BIG fears. You know, the ones that really hold you back. List out as many as you are comfortable with. Now, look at the two lists. Chances are – you’re going to see some themes popping up. If, for example, you’re afraid of asking for a promotion it’s very likely that you’re also afraid of a bigger thing such as job security….. See and let yourself feel how those big fears help shape the life you live.
If you’re not all that thrilled with the way fear frames your life, don’t sweat. There are things you can do to tackle this kind-of-a-big-deal problem. Start by imagining what your life would look life without fear. Would you ask for a promotion? Would you get it? What would your job look like then? Would you end up with even more job security as you expand your experience and skills? Probably, right? To start tackling fear, you need to learn opposite actions.
When something makes you afraid, start by taking the opposite action. Whether it’s parallel parking or snowboarding, let yourself experience the thing you’re afraid of. Keep your eye on the prize or the reason why you are allowing yourself to be afraid. What is it you’re hoping to obtain? A great parking spot? A new way to have fun in the winter? Start small. Keep going. Learn how to ride fear like a pro surfer.
Key Takeaway for Everyone:
Fear is something we all experience. It’s just a fact of life. Just as we can weight train and develop muscles, we can learn how to embrace and let go of the fear factor in our lives. When we do so, we live the lifestyle we really want. It’s a beautiful thing.
Key Takeaway for Real Estate Investors:
Real estate may be one of the safest investments on earth, but no investment in the world is iron-clad. That’s the thing, isn’t it? We must be willing to take that leap, that big jump – and keep our eyes on the end result. To be a successful investor, it’s crucial to learn how to surf right on over your fear.